Envy is such an ugly emotion, and one I know very well. When my late husband died, I felt envious of all the happy couples around me. Not only was I widowed, but also infertile, so I was especially envious of the happy couples with children. I allowed envy to consume me, and I was an ugly person to be around. I lost a lot of friends, and family became more distant because I had allowed myself to become this toxic, angry, selfish person. Now, I still get envious about things, it’s difficult not to, however, I have gotten better at dealing with it.

Instead of feeding the envy, I like to be objective. Many people have more toned bodies than I do, I bet they are disciplined in their exercise routine. I have no discipline, and rarely exercise. Instead of allowing the envy to fester, I try to turn it into motivation to work harder. This formula, turning envy into motivation, works for all things. It requires humility and patience with yourself. You have to want to grow as a person.

Envy is a selfish emotion that will guarantee destruction. You will become lonely, and resentful. It’s a horrible way to live, please trust me on this. It is more fulfilling to celebrate others accomplishments with them. By not allowing envy to consume you, you will become more enjoyable to be around. You’ll feel lighter, and find that people gravitate to you more. You will enjoy life, and your own accomplishments in a way you never have before. Love is work, but I promise you that it’s worth it.